Life can throw us so many challenges day to day and sometimes it can be overwhelming and too much. At times it isn’t always easy to find the positive amongst the negatives and keep smiling, and that is OK! However the good news is there is always hope and countless ways to find joy in life, even through the negatives – you just need to know how to put your energy and thoughts purposely.
~ Life is way too short for unnecessary stress ~
Here are a few tips for finding inner peace and happiness:
- Focus on the present
It is so easy to get wrapped up in what could happen, what could go wrong at your business or dinner tonight, on your date next Thursday or where you will be financially in a year. But why worry about the future right now? Fretting or worrying over possibilities isn’t going to make any of them less likely to happen- it will just cause you unnecessary stress which doesn’t need to be. Just focus on the now and where you are today. Life is a journey where we’ll meet many obstacles, highs, lows but that’s just life. So just embrace where you are now and trust that wherever you’ll be or whatever happens is your path and is meant to be.
It also does not make sense to resent the past either. The thing is, you cannot change the past. Why would you like to re-live time and time again something in your mind, a situation that’s been and gone which you cannot do anything about?
“The livingness is right now. All the vitality is in that. Why waste time with something that hasn’t happened when you can be with what is – totally?”
Simply focussing our attention on the present moment and just enjoying where we are NOW, and the flow of life – riding the wave of our highs and lows and just knowing that everything DOESN’T have to be perfect 24/7 or have to know how things pan out. Living our best life, doing our best and enjoying life now is all that matters.
- Get outside
Getting back to nature can do wonders for the human spirit. Make it a point to spend a little time outside each day, even if it’s only for a 15-minute walk. Why not get to a nature reserve or a place to solely be in nature – switch of from phones and technology. It can be humbling to stand in the enormity of wilderness, and sometimes offers greatly-needed perspective.
- Practise Mindfulness
When we practice mindfulness, we’re practicing the art of creating space for ourselves—space to think, space to breathe, space between ourselves and our reactions. It is a natural quality that we all have. It’s available to us in every moment if we take the time to appreciate it. Simply just being, breathing and feeling. Becoming more aware of the present moment can help us enjoy the world around us more and understand ourselves better. When we become more aware of the present moment, we begin to experience afresh things that we have been taking for granted.
There are so many ways to practise Mindfulness. One being mindfulness meditation which involves sitting silently and paying attention to thoughts, sounds, the sensations of breathing or parts of the body, bringing your attention back whenever the mind starts to wander. Or Yoga and tai-chi are also a form of meditation and can help with developing awareness of your breathing.
There are many more ways to practise mindfulness. Find the way that suits you best here.
- Play to your strengths
When we’re feeling down we tend to focus on the negative, often on our own personal weaknesses. Don’t! Consciously identify your strengths and build on them. Maybe at this time you wouldn’t be able to run a major restaurant, but you’re a star at running your kitchen as head chef. That would make you an excellent candidate to help out at a local community kitchen — you’d have the chance to excel at something you enjoy and for an amazing cause. Find rewarding ways to use your abilities and you can build your self-confidence and happiness.
Relationships of every kind depend on clear, consistent communication. But being a strong communicator isn’t a skill that all of us have, and struggles with it can cause problems at home, work, within our circle of friends and anxiety within ourselves. Be straightforward and say what you want to say; don’t talk around it. Be tactful, but if you aren’t happy about something, speak up! Whether it’s an unreasonable workload at the office or an argument with your spouse that’s still bothering you. Be just and always honest. You may often find situations turn out in your favour. When things that are on you mind are finally let out and resolved ~ our mind is made clear and pure.
Written by – Vanessa Tait