Putting yourself first on occasion is not a matter of adopting selfish habits. It’s a matter of nourishing yourself to allow you to live a contented and fulfilled life and to be the happiest version of yourself; for the sake of your mental, spiritual and physical health and for the sake of loved ones around you. Looking after yourself isn’t just pleasing your own being- of course in the process but the sweeping effect radiates to everyone around you. You will also emenate your true self without shadowing behind other emotions and habits that are unlike your true presence.
How often do you berate yourself for getting easily irritated with loved ones because you’re so worn out? How often do you berate yourself for eating rubbish during the week because you’ve nothing in the fridge? Do you have a perpetual feeling of running on empty? Perhaps it’s time to start getting a little stricter on yourself and your busy schedule, by always ensuring there is adequate YOU TIME in the diary each week.
Once we learn to take care of ourselves in every aspect of ourselves, stress seems to dissipate and our hearts also become that little bit extra full!
With that, here are…
8 suggestions for putting yourself first :
1.Early morning space.
This is all about having the TIME in the morning to set your intentions for the day. A rushed morning leaves you feeling flustered for the whole day. So, what do you need to do to create some morning space? How about getting up an hour earlier? Give your self time to wake up slow, stretch, look outside and breathe in some fresh air. Sit down with a nice cup of tea or coffee in your favourite spot in the house. If you haven’t already got one – get a journal! Write a list of all your daily intentions and goals, get anything that’s on your mind… get it out of your mind and down on paper.. give your brain a breather! Another lovely thing to do is write a gratitude list for everything you are grateful and thankful for, physically and spiritually. Being thankful for your life is one of the quickest ways to shift your mind set from negative to positive, and by doing this every morning will keep you grounded and brings your mind to the present moment.
Do some yoga or set aside 10 minutes for a small meditation practice.
Nourish your body with a healthy breakfast and something ACTUALLY want to eat instead of just scoffing down a stale bowl of cereal as it was the quickest thing you could grab. Be also mindful of it – take time to eat slow and enjoy it!
Take a fresh shower and lather yourself in your favourite moisturiser. When we don’t have time.. we just plainly don’t have time for any self love. But even having the time to moisturise and getting ready in our own time will make you feel great!! Instead of flustered and half finishing your makeup on the bus.
Prepare yours / the kids lunches the night before, to also give you some extra time.
2. Learn to say no.
For what purpose are all your ‘yes’s’ serving you? Are they enriching your life, or merely stretching you too thin? You don’t need to feel as though your value will decrease or people will like you less if you back away from certain tasks or engagements at times. What’s more, it is ok to just say no – no explanation of ‘why’ necessary. In the interests of maintaining your energy (and knowing what your limits are).
3. Always have an extended break booked.
The mere thought of something to look forward to is exciting and energising. The momentary daydream of the escape to come is like a trip in itself – refreshing. Do you have a trip planned? It need not be expensive if you don’t have lots of extra cash, weekends away camping come summer are a great option.
4. Schedule weekend down time for yourself.
A Sunday afternoon nap, some time on the sofa with a book; it’s important to consciously take time to reset before another week starts. Back to back social engagements can be fun but exhausting and heading into a Monday leaving you playing catch ups for the week is never ideal. So when do you find time to take a breath? So make it a self imposed rule for at least one weekend morning sleep in, where you don’t have to get up to go anywhere – no racing out the door to meet someone, just you in my own relaxed place and pace, taking it easy (and to the parents out there, I’m sorry, I appreciate this is quite the luxury!). Whatever the case, let’s refer to number 1 here and schedule it.
5. Regular downtime in a café.
The smallest moments can be luxurious and it is that feeling of luxury that is rejuvenating. Go in search of this feeling. Take a book to your favourite spot and take five (or an hour) once a week, or even once every few weeks. Treat yourself to breakfast or some lunch, turn your phone on airplane mode. Switch off and reset. A simple treat.
6. Once a week ‘GYSTD Day’ (Get Yo Sh*t together Day)
How much better do you feel when your personal finances are in order? Your bills are paid? Your hair is cut? Food shopping is done? Your car is clean? Your home and space is tidy? How hectic does it feel when all these things are left pondering in our minds to do, but we always find something ‘better’ to do and try to swerve these tasks – it leaves us feeling stressed, cluttered and disorganised. Personal admin is not a ‘chore’ we want to leave to our weekend. Admittedly, it’s easier working for yourself to pick and choose your tasks, but if you’re self employed, you ought to consider doing this too. Even taking a few hours to whizzy these tasks one afternoon or a few hours one evening instead of watching that TV program you can just record for the weekend? Weekends are for down time, unwinding, not for pesky tasks. When its also done in one go… it feels FAB!
7. Monthly massage or facial.
‘Me time’ is golden! Having something booked and to look forward to is amazing and we all deserve it! That time to really give back to our bodies for all it serves us everyday. We feel this should be a priority. Come join us for your monthly fix – keep an eye out for our monthly offers. So go on.. book yourself in! You’ll thank us later.
8. End of day ritual.
Repeatedly signalling the end of the day with a certain activity can prompt your body into relax mode. A bath, a book, a cup of tea, whatever you need; try thinking about creating a repetitive ritual that is easy enough to incorporate into your day. Switch your phone’s wifi off, light candles, incense, turn on your diffuser. Create a space you love… however that may be- without screens and machines. Switch off from the world and just be.
Self care and self love is in no regards a selfish act. Be good to your self and give back to yourself… you deserve it!